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How to Rawk out at SXSW Interactive 2011

It’s mid February now, which means that folks are starting to get hyped up for SXSW. After all it’s only a month away!

Which means that if you haven’t done the following, to prep, then you should get on it now.

  • Register for SXSW, and confirm travel & housing arrangements
  • Have business cards or moo cards ordered and confirmed for delivery
  • Plan a wardrobe of appropriate geeky/ironic/hipster teeshirts
  • Broken in comfortable walking shoes
  • Prep your liver

Pro points if you’ve done the following

  • Downloaded the SXSW Music torrent to listen to to check out bands that might be around while you’re attending the conference
  • Purchased, tested, and have ready supplemental power & storage
  • Updated your profile for accuracy and current contact data at all pertinent social and professional online networks (ie if you’re looking for a job, make sure your LinkedIn profile is up to date)
  • Started RSVPing for various SXSW panels, events, and parties
  • Said you’re attending this year’s How To Rawk Out At SXSW Interactive session.

For the last few years I’ve had the honor and pleasure of helping curate and moderate this introductory panel for new attendees of the Interactive session of the SXSW.  It’s been a hoot and I’ve been fortunate enough to call all the folks who have participated as friends!

Unfortunately due to some very important things happening in my life at the moment, I won’t be able to attend this year.  It’s a huge bummer.

But my friend Kris Krug is in charge this year and will rock it out.

How to Rawk Out at SXSW! – Friday, 2pm  March 11th, 2011

This light-hearted and informative introduction to SXSW Interactive
will deliver a fun and informative first glimpse into what many call
“Spring Break” For Geeks or “Sleep Away Camp” for the tech set.
Seasoned conference veterans will provide pro tips on how to get the
most from sessions, networking, parties, and more. This session will
also highlight developments in the new conference campus and enjoying
and getting around Austin from SXSW planners and city locals.
Speakers: JBrotherlove, Kris Krug, Christine Auten, Mark Couvillion Gianfranco Chicco
and musical guest Neiliyo.  Moderated by MJ Kim.

While digging through my old laptop I managed to find my presentation that I did last year as part of SXSW 2010.

In summary, the points are these:

  • Don’t forget to engage with folks IRL.  Which means, don’t hide behind your laptop, get engrossed in live-blogging or live-tweeting that you’re missing the conversations in front of you.  The person that you may have or need to have conversations with may be sitting right next to you.  So look up and around at the lovely people around you.  The most annoying thing to see would be a huddle of folks all checking their cell phones for twitter conversations while sitting at a table with the 12 other people that you’re twitter responding with.  Frankly, it makes you look like a douchebag.
  • Don’t be a Wifi Pig.  In the past ACC has been notoriously bad about wifi though in 2010 it got noticeably better.  Still, even if you took 200 awesome pics the night before, don’t upload them while at the conference and clog up the network.  Same with hogging chairs and power plugs.  Better yet, if you have room in your backpack, bring a power adapter with you to share.  If you see someone who is standing and you have your bag on a seat, make room.  In other words, don’t be a dick.  Exercise manners.  You’re in the south. Exercise Southern Manners.  I would. And I’m from the South (Of Korea).
  • Don’t be a lurker.  Everyone at SXSW is famous to maybe 15 other people. Unless you’re Zeldman or John or Heather something. But this is no time or place to act like some teeny bopper fan boy to stalk them.  Just go up and say  hi.  Have a brief conversation. Don’t be creepy for fuck sake.  I am, of course, guilty of having, while drunk, gone up to Heather and said, “OMG I’m a Huge Fan of Your Work Amanda Congdon!”   This made me an asshole.  A totally embarrassed asshole at that.  And I swear I’m not racist just because when I’m drunk I think all white women look the same. (I’m kidding I’m kidding!)
  • Travel light.  As light as you can.  Make regular pitstops to drop off any extra items you don’t need to carry with you at all times.  The last thing you need is to carry 20lbs of tech gear around you for a 16 hour day of panels and parties and then to forget it somewhere or to knock over someone’s beer at a crowded venue.  Or worse yet, have shit poured on your backpack because you bumped into someone else.  Coming from the girl who crashed the MTV Fashion Awards party in Europe with a friend who lost his passport and laptop at the party, I’m just saying – travel light and not stupid.
  • Don’t be just an ass in a chair – meaning, be engaged.  Lots of sessions can be really crowded.  If you’re actually not paying attention aound engaged, let someone else have the seat.  Also, we’re all assuming you’re an adult and if you don’t like the session you’re in, you can go to another one where it might be more interesting.  I highly recommend getting a session in that’s completely divorced from your line of work.  It’ll be refreshing for you and you may make more interesting connections than you’d expect from staying in a “track” that’s of your specific discipline.
  • Don’t be cookie cutter.  Be unique – like everyone else.  Heh,, that’s up to you how you choose to be memorable and differentiate yourself at SXSW.  My medium in the past has been lipstick.
  • Don’t be infectious!  There is a phenomenon known as SXSars.  Wash your hands, cover your mouth when you cough.  Don’t make out with folks with the plague.  You know. Usual kindergarten stuff that needs to be rehashed here.  In that spirit, take care of yourself physically with hydration, appropriate fiber, and vitamins.  You’ll thank me later for highlighting those three bodily needs.  I could say sleep too, but who are we kidding.  Sleep is for the week after SXSW.
  • And yes, please sing.  Please sing Karaoke a lot.  Please sing Journey “Don’t Stop Believing”. I really really want you too sing that during SXSW.

BTW – You’re all totally invited.

LapPOP! A blog showcase as part of APATURE!

Sunday September 21, 2008 from 12:30pm – 3:00pm

 

Theater Rhinoceros

2926 16th St
San Francisco, California 94103

Website: http://www.locusarts.org

Price: $8

LapPOP! – a night of performance, readings, film and whatnot from notable APA bloggers and artists.
An intersection between geekery, personal expression, and pop culture.

Guest MC & Curator of Lap-POP! is Min Jung Kim of www.minjungkim.com

Featured Performers
Eric Nakagawa Co-Founder http://www.icanhascheezburger.com
Kari Unebasami Co-Founder http://www.icanhascheezburger.com
Ernie Hsiung, Writer http://www.littleyellowdifferent.com
Dino Ignacio, Artist http://www.dinoignacio.com
Annie Koh Writer http://www.undisclosedassociation.org
Hasan Minhaj, Comedian http://www.hasanminhaj.com

Bios:
Ernie Hsiung – http://www.8asians.com http://www.littleyellowdifferent.com
Ernie Hsiung started out as a humor columnist for Asian-American Internet Webzine IIStix.com while a Computer Science and Engineering major at UC Davis. Since then, he blogs at his personal website, littleyellowdifferent.com, where he was nominated for a SXSW Web Award in 2001 and has won seven Weblog Awards (Bloggies) including Weblog of the Year, most humorous weblog and best GLBT weblog, been in a bunch of magazines, and hot-linked by Margaret Cho.  (But that was ages ago.)  He is also the editor of 8Asians.com, a multi-user blog catered to the Asian-American community.

Dino Ignacio – http://www.dinoignacio.com
Dino Ignacio is a multi-media artist specializing in insurgent propaganda. He is responsible for many unAmerican acts. Most notably for the creation of Bert Is Evil. He has worked in print, web, video and broadcast. He is currently working in the gaming industry.

Min Jung Kim – http://www.minjungkim.com
Min Jung Kim is a bay area writer, long time blogger, and humor columnist for anyone else foolish enough to pay her for her rants and musings. She has been a participant in the multiple award winning experiment Survivorblog and started her original effluvia of online writing at II Stix as a featured columnist and then her own column for KoreAm Journal. She has never won a bloggie award but she’s won two anti-bloggies for being “Most Stalkable” and “Most Frequently Late To Work”.

Annie Koh – http://undisclosedassociation.org
Grew up in the tough streets of the Chicago suburbs, hustling library books and Girl Scout cookies for a living, before falling in with a bad crowd at Kearny Street Workshop and Locus Arts and becoming an arts/nonprofit junkie. Annie now lives in Seoul, translating, editing, organizing Party Benefit & Jam, and pondering her masters thesis on
modern Korean history. Top secret project blog at
undisclosedassociation.org

Hasan Minhaj – http://www.hasanminhaj.com/
Hasan Minhaj is a stand-up comedian, writer, and actor based in San Francisco, CA. He has performed at the Laugh Factory, Cobbs, Punchline, Improv, UCB Theater, and countless other venues. In 2004 he won Mr. India California, and went on to Mr. India America 2005 winning Mr. India West Coast. In the fall of 2006 he was a founding member of Gridiron Gang, UC Davis’ first standup comedy/sketch trio. He has recently been featured as an effinfunny.com ‘Comic to Watch’. He was a featured finalist in NBC’s Standup for Diversity, the nationwide search for the funniest comics of diverse backgrounds.

Eric Nakagawa – http://www.ericnakagawa.com/ http://www.ftwrnd.com
Eric Nakagawa is the co-founder of I Can Has Cheezburger? He is part of FTW R&D, an experimental internet company focused on building fun, collaborative websites and social communities that help participants have fun, feel good, and accomplish dreams.

Kari Unebasami – http://www.lulzftw.com http://www.ftwrnd.com
Kari Unebasami is an internet enthusiast and entrepreneur living and working in Honolulu. She is the co-founder of the lolcat megasite I Can Has Cheezburger? and is currently part of FTW R&D, a company trying to make The Internets a better place. She does not own a cat.

Lady, put your hands up where I can see them, and back away slowly from the wanderlust. I mean by gawd.

Did I mention that I’m traveling again this week?

Woops. Yes, tis true.

I’ll be at the most excellent SXSW conference again this year and in a returning cameo role as a panelist!

Dude. I fricking feel like Charo on the loveboat.

No seriously.

And if I wasn’t already set up for pure tom-foolery (is that a word?) my panel is in the morning and on the first day.

Now, the panel subject is titled
“Better Blogging Brainstorms”

I realize that the name of this panel sounds a little bit like a dissertation on the qualities and varieties of belly button lint and how it may vary seasonally based on one’s raw food consumption & fuzzy sweater proclivity.

I’m confident it’ll be quite more entertaining and insightful than that though it has triggered for myself a number of questions on what is to be considered good content, better content, and among the best in content.

For myself, having blogged for 6 years and drafting a post that apparently has been received as being canonical I’m never sure of what may be considered good content or skill sets for better content. I know what content and blogging works well for me. I know what I like to read and view and absorb and respond to.

But you, dear friends, are not me.
And while you may like The Office, I will suffice my joys in humor with the delightful car crash referred to as Flavor Of Love.
A lot of it is a matter of taste.

But on the flipside, as a producer of content, I am more inclined to lean to a philosophy of writing a la Stephen King. I mean, the man’s produced a few damn brilliant and lovely pieces of work. But he’s also generated a whole new jersey cess pool of puscoated stinkers as well. But being prolific has its advantages. You do, afterall, have a better liklihood of creating something interesting, writing something entertaining, or resonating with someone on a whole new level.

That is, afterall, one of the brilliant reasons why I so “less than 3″ the internet. (That would be <3 aka a heart tilted sideways for you non-l33t jigga wah? fools)

And your thoughts on this subject?

I’m sure we’re going to have some interesting and stimulating banter of the subject as I’m pleased to be sitting on a panel with some pretty nifty folks.

Cameron Barrett
I’ve met this man at SXSWs previously and I have a picture of him looking as if he’s got some weird brain sucking thing happening with Jay Allen.

Helen Jane I’ve crossed pixels with this woman in the past for some silly blog reallity game shenanigans that this dorkbot was responsible for.

Tony Pierce who is one ridiculously scintillating and talented writer. Charming as all heck in person to boot.

The panel will be moderated by Ms Lisa Sabater who is the evil mastermind at Culture Kitchen.

Now before you go claiming that this little post and linklove is a digital clusterf*ck, pre SXSW,I beg you to set yourself down for a moment and think here.

Were there any drugs involved? No. Were there any biological fluids exchanged? No. Did anyone get chlamidya that wasn’t already there from burning man or a Consumating date gone regretfully wrong? No. Did anyone have to bury a dead hooker in their backyard and pretend that they were holding a memorial for their exboyfriend’s rottweiler. I think not. And if the police ask me, that’s my story and I’m keeping to it.

Barring all that and if I have anything entertaining to say during my panel, you betcha that you will have considered it *waving one finger in the air with all sass and attitude* broughten by end of session. (Grammar geeks, is that future perfect sentence or what?)

And oh yeah. Worse comes to worse, I’m bringing my cowbell.

On Housekeeping & What not..

Happy Lunar New Year folks!

May your heart, life and home be filled with peace, laughter, and many blessings. And yeah, though the year is of the dog, I’m pretty sure it isn’t going to be as much of a bitch as last year.

In a bit of housecleaning this year I figured I’d ping you with a bit of an update.

#1. The CD that I’ve mentioned before is officially up and available for sale now.
Expect Jane, the partner in crime, to comment something about this soon.

And yes, we’ve finally gotten around to resurecting the website for the lable.
Yes it’s bare bones. More good stuff to come as we get around to it.
At the very least the cd’s will be available wherever yon you see yours trully or Jane in the bay. I promise from here on out i won’t travel anywhere with less than 3 of these on my bodily person. $15/piece. A bit more with shipping and handling if you insist but that can be accommodated. Stuff should be available on CDBaby and various other places soon enough as I’ve zipped off the cd’s last week. Wee!

#2. I’m getting ready for my next batch of travels.
Heading into michigan with digital camera (yes.. new) and mittens and hats and cowbell. Then as I mentioned before, a stint in Toronto, Chicago, and NYC.
Ping me if you want to meet up at any juncture. Times/schedules are finally in the solidifying process.

#3. Job hunting… well i’m plugging away at it. And have other various housekeeping things to manage about that as well. Bills, etc.. and all that responsible stuff. Medical care is forefront on my mind. I can’t believe that Cobra coverage is nearly $400 a month. Un-fricking-believable. Anyone canadian wanna marry me? Come*on* now.

#4. Jason. Why! Why must you curse me with memes!

Four Jobs I’ve Had:

1. Door to Door art sales
2. Borders Books – Retail
3. Santa Photo Shoot Manager
4. Product Marketing Manager par excelence!

Four Movies I Can Watch Over and Over:

1. Say Anything
2. Big Trouble in Little China
3. Breakfast Club
4. The Incredibles

Four Places I’ve Lived:

1. Seoul, Korea
2. Livonia, MI
3. Ann Arbor, MI
4. San Francisco, CA

Four TV Shows I Love to Watch:

1. Good Eats
2. CSI
3. Flavor of Love (Flavor Flav!)
4. Drawn Together

Four Places I’ve Been on Vacation:

1. Austin, TX
2. Maui,HI
3. New York, NY
4. Las Vegas, NV (hated this. oh ew. so fricking hated this)

Four of My Favorite Dishes:

1. Kimchi & Spam Fried Rice
2. Sushi
3. My dad’s Kalbi-jjim
4. Bacon Cheeseburger with garlic fries.

Four Websites I Visit Daily:

1. Bloglines
2. Flickr
3. Monster.com (well that’s been recently)
4. we-Boggle

Four Places I Would Rather Be Right Now:

1. Seoul,Korea — but when my friends are there
2. At a kickass job that I love
3. Giverny, France
4. Well.. I think I’m getting the rest of the places I’d rather be outta the way in th enext month.

Four bloggers who I’m tagging as “it”:

1. The roommate
2. The gay cruise boy. (Kidding!)
3. The gal with more cowbell than all ya’all
4. Miss Xxxtine whom I’ll be seeing this upcoming weekend.

Smooches.

Just… Brilliant.

Have you ever written a FUCK YOU post?

I mean, besides to something that’s completely anthropomorphised for comic relief (ie, your belly, your ass, the previous year, your dog’s particularly sticky poo, a slice of cheese, your bass guitar, or the xbox)

One of my favorite spoken word poets Shailja is fairly well known for her extraordiarny talent, political in-your-face- unapologeticism, and general sass, and her explosively creative FUCK YOU breakup poem. It’s a fave o’ mine. I dig it. But that’s because I’m a generally lilttle angry woman and refer to the occasional ex-boyfriend affectionally with “oooh.. you mean skull-fuck… ew… why bring that up again}.

And I dig it more that she’s blogging.

And giving a big Fuck-You to hollywood.
For SHAME. Making Michelle Yeoh (who speaks perfect english) have to act in an entire film with a japanesey accent.

It’s gawddamn 2006 already. Didn’t we dump the me-so-solly accents already?

Jayzus.

Posted by Min Jung in APA, Elsewhere in the Bloggerati, General

Um – Kay…

Hey!

Listen to some dudes in Chicago who are drunk/stoned audio & video blog!

With several horrendous mispronunciations of my name!

For those who only read my text and have never heard my name spoken, here’s a few notes for you.


Min -
as in miniscule … like some guys penises that i know

Jung – Not like the fucked up psychologist quack pot but with the actual J sound. Still, it does rhyme with young. Soft g at the end. The second part of my first name should not sound like a Cantonese war yelp before butcher knives and swords (along with random instances of cherry blossoms and/or snow) get thrown through the air and Zhang Zi Yi pretends to not be pouty for once in a film.

Kim - as in Kimberly. That girl in highschool that you had the hots for so badly that you let her copy off of your physics test.

Other ways my name has been mispronounced in the most recent past?
Minja – as in Ninja.
For which I felt obliged to post the Pink Ninja pix.

*shaking head and clucking tongue in dismay*

In other news:
Latest mathematical/socialogical truisms

The liklihood of wifi being present is inversely proportional to the number of doilies on a premisis. Real Doilies. Paper Doilies apparently only mean that there are wifi networks present but locked off.
Tested and true.

Also: The propensity for doily making increases as the frequency of a woman’s menstruation cycle declines.

Also: The size of one’s purse is directly proportional to the number of people that a woman cares for. Those chicks with those tiny little hand clutches? Bitches. They’ll expect to be taken care of. Those women with epic sized bag larger than a mini-cooper are likely trying to take care of a small village in south america. And/or 2 children and a significant other who frequently acts like one. Add additional bags for diapers, yoga gear, and valium. Lots and lots of valium.

Also: The frequency with which one makes drunk dialing calls is inversely proportional to your acceptable level of attractiveness to anyone. ANYONE. And even your friends will feel less likely to try & pimp you out.

Also: The liklihood of trying to run on gas fumes towards the gas station is not indicative of idiocy so much as a chance to experience an opportunity for humility and recognition of a very heartbreaking human condition. (Oblique I know.. I’ll write more about this later)

Also: On a monday, one really does *not* need to hear a friend speak about purchasing a strap-on to spice up one’s sex life. Seriously. Ever. Unclean. Unclean. Unclean.

“I’m a Bitch!”



MJ!

Originally uploaded by bmindful.


You know, sometimes the captions just write themselves.

Musical Baton

Hurray. Yet another meme.

The gorgeous Ms Nikita and the astounding fabulous Ms Eleanor has passed me the musical baton. Oh the pressure. I’m so music blonde. But such a voracious collector. Plus back in the day, i used to work at an NNTP outsourcing company which made downloading music insanely too easy.

Total volume of music on my computer
The external harddrive says I have 149.3GBs. Wow. The current laptop after my little Tiger fiasco last week has 0. Thank goodness I have the external for backup.

The last CD I bought
Just this week I bought two CDs by Scrabbel. I heart them

Song playing right now
‘I believe in Miracles, You Sexy Thing’ – Hot Chocolate

Five songs I listen to a lot, or that mean a lot to me:

1. Sinead O’connor “You Do Something To Me” This song is butter. Gorgeous, rich, and full of sound.
2. Shirelles “Mama Said There’d Be Days Like This” That peppy song I need to get through even the worst of days. Today having been one of them. I heart me Motown.
3. Basement Jaxx “U can’t stop me” When I need to get amped and ready to kick ass and take names.
4. Garbage “Only Happy When It Rains” For when I want to punch myself in the face. Yeah, I get those days too.
5. When In Rome “The Promise” Because I’m cheestastic 80s girl.

Five people to whom I’m passing the baton:

1. Amy
2. Jane
3. Eric
4. Jason
5. Jackson

Posted by Min Jung in Elsewhere in the Bloggerati, General

Flashback Pix from SXSW



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Originally uploaded by Nicole Lee.


I’ve been pulling the adult thing at work.

Coming in on time. Addressing and escalating projects, putting out the professional communications, and wearing the adultlike shoes and avoiding wearing my hoodies in the workplace. I even brought a plant in to the office.

But inside, I still really feel like a kid. A total young’n dork. With a penchant for whimsy.

One of the better compliments I’ve heard in a while was from Mr. Andy who stated,

“Hey, but you’re a really cute drunk”
Yeah.

This pic reminds me that I’m sometimes pretty damn mischievous and dorky still.

*********
Last night watched Sin City.
Gorgeous film. Pulp dialogue. Interesting thunks spinning out of it associated with identity and the cruxes that everyone carries as a result of identity, a world of black & white, morality that falls painfully beyond the black and white, and how sometimes pain is the only reality that people know and can respond to.

Followed up by reading this book that a friend loaned me recently. Mysticism in the dessert. Mages & trying to summon the presence of angels. Pulp in it’s own fashion. Followed by reading a chapter of “The God Who Won’t Let Go” by Peter G. Van Breemen which guides me through some meditations on personal faith and acceptance in a multi-hued and pixilated universe of myriad depths and textures. Follow that on with starting through the introduction of Moral Maxims by Francois LA Rochefoucauld, – originally published in French during the 1600s.

From Francois LA Rochefoucauld:
103.–Those who know their minds do not necessarily know their hearts.

109.–Youth changes its tastes by the warmth of its blood, age retains its tastes by habit.

114.–We are inconsolable at being deceived by our enemies and betrayed by our friends, yet still we are often content to be thus served by ourselves.

118.–The intention of never deceiving often exposes us to deception.

119.–We become so accustomed to disguise ourselves to others that at last we are disguised to ourselves.

One considers those that are sins against God and sins against one another. Everyday circumstances and the analogies that trickle out like blood and breath from the seams of our daily life.

Not everything is sin.
And certainly very little is Black or White.

And yeah, inside my head today, I’m a little pink.

Because I still owe you a final writeup on my mischief at SXSW

I’m deluged with guilt for not having completed the last writeup of my mischievous events at SXSW so perhaps that’s a good thing.

I’m just not properlly diligent to go over the list of all the great folks that I met, kissed, rawked out wtih, and enjoyed the immense pleasure of getting to know over Shiners.

I beg you, forgive me. In the interim, my blogroll is growing as are my bloglines subscriptions. I’m getting caught up – yo. One thing at a time.

In the interim, I’d like to share my column piece that will be in the April issue of KoreAm journal re: my experience having spoken on the panel there. (Which for those who want to take note, April is the same month that I’ll be turning a very sexy 31) KoreAm Journal is the magazine that I’ve had the pleasure of writing for over the last four years. My editor, Jimmy, totally rocks.

Here goes:

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Additional thoughts on Work Styles & Leadership by Women

I’ve been meditating more re: my most recent DISC profile analysis and some thoughts that popped out over the Where are the Women in Web design panel during SXSW.

Just some personal thoughts.
Being a professional navel gazer with regards to self actualization and personal development as a blogger, writer, shit talker, amateur sociologist, and pop culture synesthesziast do help with this:

I display the following characteristics in these appropriate environments:

D: Dominance:
Recognized by: High Self-Confidence
Pace: Faster
Gains Security: Being in Control
Measures Progress by: Results
Major Fear: Being taken advantage of, loss of control.
Irritated by: Inefficiency, indecision, slowness
Major Limitations: Selective Listening and Impatience

When planning trips or events, I can be particularly aggressive.
I am more likely to display an aggressive/efficiency focused behavior when I’m under pressure to create a good time/good experience for my friends. My value system directs me to ensure optimal results in terms of mischief; personal documentation; and timeliness. I’m not a dragon lady, per se, but I’m really driven to get things done so that all can have a great time. It’s not that the environment is unfavorable so much as the parameters or constraints by which I work under these circumstances. Examples: Planning the Coachella Trip. Or my most recent planning forays and organization insanity for SXSW.
Rawk.

I: Influence
Recognized by: Talkativeness, enthusiasm, optimism, energy
Pace: Fast
Gains Security: Flexibility/Variety
Measures Progress by: Applause,praise
Major Fear: Social Rejection
Irritated by: Routine, formality
Major Limitations: Lack of follow through

This is an area where I definitely consider my environment to be “favorable.” It’s safe, comforting, and amenable to both my communication style and my penchant for whimsy. This is definitely a behavior pattern I exhibit on my blog or frequently in blogging circles. Any other reason why I have over a dozen different types of post categories out there? And confession: I check my referrer stats and technorati tracks far more than I really should. I’ve often referred to myself as being both lazy and vain. I think this blog probably exemplifies both characteristics to some degree. I’ve refrained more now than in the past from total “persona projection” cam girl-esque behaviors.

But then again, I also flaunt kissing bloggers. Go figure.

S: Steadiness
Recognized by: Friendliness, co-operation, persistence, patience
Pace: Slower
Gains Security: Close relationships
Measures Progress by: Appreciation
Major Fear: Personal rejection, loss of stability, sudden change.
Irritated by: Insensitivity, impatience
Major Limitations: Overly modest, resist change.

Uh. Favorable environment but frequently feeling less powerful than the environment.
That pretty much covers my lack of love life there, now wouldn’t it.
This is why I generally consider myself a safe distance crushaholic but have a general sense of terror when it comes to real commitments and potential changes in my life. Plus I’ve been burned badly in the past. But then again, haven’t we all? I feel most stable when I’m single and not as emotionally invested. Toeing the brink of something as huge as love with a capital L that could really change who I am, how I am, and how I live my life is a very scary situation. I say too often that I’m a fabulous flirt but lousy at dating. This pretty much punches the noggin on why.

C: Conscientiousness
Recognized by: Accuracy, may be cautious, concern for high standards.
Pace: Slower
Gains Security: Preparation
Measures Progress by: Getting it right
Major Fear: Criticism of what they do
Irritated by: Surprises, unpredictability
Major Limitations: Overly critical of self and others

This would definitely be how I approach my writing and art. With regards to my humor pieces, poetry, attempts and chap books, and photography projects. I get so overwhelmed in the minutia of things that I wind my procrastinating my way into failure. I get easily psyched out. I automatically fail by putting unreasonable standards on my ideal product vs my skill set and knowledge to get there. Same goes for anything technical having to do with the web. At this point, I’m terrified of the notion of learning HTML and CSS on my own because I’d want to get it absolutely right and I don’t have the confidence to do this myself. Complete fear of failure or substandard deployment.

Things to note for myself:
The environments are only favorable/unfavorable based on my perception of them.
So I can work on a) modifying or adjusting my perception of them and b) if they are in fact unfavorable; pull together the resources or cajones to make them less so.

Also: I have more control over my environment than I give myself credit for.

Yo.

Hanging with the gorgeous and brilliant Ms Molly tonight and am personally inspired and reminded of a number of important things.

#1. I am not the dumbest person in the room. Neither are you. One should never feel like that and one should never EVER project that one feels like that. That’s perhaps is the most futile self-fulfilling prophecy that no person needs. Get over it. Everyone’s an idiot. And everyone is capable of brilliance.

#2. Real women drink scotch. Oban 14 year single malt.
Biyaaaaaatch.

#3. In retrospect re: sxsw this year; I’ve never had a more rewarding and exhausting experience. The opportunity to speak on a panel about leadership and women in technology; my personal experiences as a minority growing up in the midwest etc etc… I’ll post in detail my story re: what I had to say. My points in summary?:

Everyone has the opportunity to feel leverage and influence over others.
Everyone has the opportunity and responsibility to stretch beyond our immediate comfort zones.
Everyone has fear but fear is a lame excuse for not moving forward and not bringing communities; redolence and beauty to light.
Everyone has something important to say. Listen. Be accessible to listen. And try to speak new languages. Speak geekery. Speak designery. Speak honestly. Speak direclty.
FEAR NOT AUTHENTICITY AND GENUINE EMOTION.
When do we stop feeling like we have to put on a polite personal stylesheet because we might upset or shake up other folks. Maybe the want to be shaken up. Shake that shit up. Shake it like a poloroid pictcha. Yo.
Everyone has a personal stylesheet for various social circumstances. Stay authentic; but don’t fear putting yourself out there.

Everyone deserves to be kissed. Lots. With red lipstick.

#4. There should not be any compromise in perception of myself as an Asian American, or as a Woman, or as a Leader.
So what if i’m the chick running around with lipstick kissing folks? I’m also the one speaking from personal experience on a panel and I also write my experience in a magazine on a regular basisw so I must know something; right? ok. Maybe. I’m also the one who’ll give you the best feedback regarding real world usability and social constructs and application than you will *EVER* get. Talk to me. I love things geekery and will bring it down to the gritty reality mode level to tell you what makes sense and what doesn’t. I do NOT work or live in a vacuum and neither should you. Think about it. Invite me to talk to you about a different total end user-s perspective or feedback on something. I will give it to you unfiltered and that may be something that you will need to bridge the gap between the esoteric geekery and the realworld application. I am a real authentic person who doesn’t hold punches about anything. Fear me not. I am your ally.

#5. People do smile the best after they’ve been kissed. I can now say I’m an authority on this subject.
Kiss someone today. On the cheek, hand, or lips. People need to feel beloved more often. It warms up the bellly in great ways that makes facing the next morn extraordinarily easier.

#6. Rawk out with your Glock Out.
Life is short.
Make it memorable.

Smooches from ms. Molly’s hotel room where we’re drinking scotch and talking shit.

MJ