Yo.
Hanging with the gorgeous and brilliant Ms Molly tonight and am personally inspired and reminded of a number of important things.
#1. I am not the dumbest person in the room. Neither are you. One should never feel like that and one should never EVER project that one feels like that. That’s perhaps is the most futile self-fulfilling prophecy that no person needs. Get over it. Everyone’s an idiot. And everyone is capable of brilliance.
#2. Real women drink scotch. Oban 14 year single malt.
Biyaaaaaatch.
#3. In retrospect re: sxsw this year; I’ve never had a more rewarding and exhausting experience. The opportunity to speak on a panel about leadership and women in technology; my personal experiences as a minority growing up in the midwest etc etc… I’ll post in detail my story re: what I had to say. My points in summary?:
Everyone has the opportunity to feel leverage and influence over others.
Everyone has the opportunity and responsibility to stretch beyond our immediate comfort zones.
Everyone has fear but fear is a lame excuse for not moving forward and not bringing communities; redolence and beauty to light.
Everyone has something important to say. Listen. Be accessible to listen. And try to speak new languages. Speak geekery. Speak designery. Speak honestly. Speak direclty.
FEAR NOT AUTHENTICITY AND GENUINE EMOTION.
When do we stop feeling like we have to put on a polite personal stylesheet because we might upset or shake up other folks. Maybe the want to be shaken up. Shake that shit up. Shake it like a poloroid pictcha. Yo.
Everyone has a personal stylesheet for various social circumstances. Stay authentic; but don’t fear putting yourself out there.
Everyone deserves to be kissed. Lots. With red lipstick.
#4. There should not be any compromise in perception of myself as an Asian American, or as a Woman, or as a Leader.
So what if i’m the chick running around with lipstick kissing folks? I’m also the one speaking from personal experience on a panel and I also write my experience in a magazine on a regular basisw so I must know something; right? ok. Maybe. I’m also the one who’ll give you the best feedback regarding real world usability and social constructs and application than you will *EVER* get. Talk to me. I love things geekery and will bring it down to the gritty reality mode level to tell you what makes sense and what doesn’t. I do NOT work or live in a vacuum and neither should you. Think about it. Invite me to talk to you about a different total end user-s perspective or feedback on something. I will give it to you unfiltered and that may be something that you will need to bridge the gap between the esoteric geekery and the realworld application. I am a real authentic person who doesn’t hold punches about anything. Fear me not. I am your ally.
#5. People do smile the best after they’ve been kissed. I can now say I’m an authority on this subject.
Kiss someone today. On the cheek, hand, or lips. People need to feel beloved more often. It warms up the bellly in great ways that makes facing the next morn extraordinarily easier.
#6. Rawk out with your Glock Out.
Life is short.
Make it memorable.
Smooches from ms. Molly’s hotel room where we’re drinking scotch and talking shit.
MJ
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