January 2004 Archive

Life Lesson #3 2004

There is no cool logic nor measurement to emotion.

Neither Joy nor sorrow – can be captured or defined by a chemical cocktail, and if you believe otherwise, then control of one’s own destiny, mind, and heart, have been totally surrendered by you. To which, that recognition, I hope you find some honesty. I hope you learn to recognize the grandeur and astonishing capability of having ownership and delight in your own emotional capacity and gifts.

There is no international measurement for loss or grief.

There are no standards or absolutes when it comes to expressions of love. There are no mathmatical equations or timelines to such things.

Horror and fear can only be measured in nights of restless sleep.
Anger only in the expressions and wounded relationships of those you’ve hurt or have been hurt by.

And love, only in the most fond memories that you take pride and warm charm in the retelling.

In honor, there is only the measurement of a good lifetime. Which I hope dearly for myself and to those who I’ve been blessed to know.

And in all good things and bad, there is the strength in knowing that things will always change, emotions will always ebb and flow, and an opportunity for an even greater expansiveness and indulgence in emotional depth will present itself.

Posted by Min Jung in Life Lessons

Convo with the Kissing Bandit: 1.17.04

Moi: You did *what*?
KB: *whisper whisper*
Moi: With that guy you barely know!? I mean, Fuck!
KB: *wink*
Moi: Wow.
KB: Girl…life is too short not to work it.
Moi: Yeah, but there’s a difference between working it and letting it work you… give the cooch a break…
KB: That’s what death is for.
Moi: That’s necropheliac sexy.
KB: Damn. Good point.
Moi: … ok, now I’m disturbed
KB: That’s what friends are for.

A Birthday Ode to My Friend

A Birthday ode to Ms. Jane P as I will likely be too shy to perform such awful rhyme in public to my dear friend.

A Delightful Day for Ms. Jane Miyuki
Who is a magical creature, not unlike the Tanuki

Though who can say if her privates are as magically endowed
As the Tanuki of legend, only her beaus are allowed

To speak such of her charms delicate grace and giddy candor
Such a game geek goddess, full of Huzzah and spirit, Gondor

Who can rawk the warlock while sporting legwarmers pink
The fashionista without compromise, she carries it off, don’t ya think?

She’s got loveliness and charm that flutter like sparks from cosmotic seas
Joy, strength, and kindness, she really is the bee’s knees

If you haven’t yet met her, swift now, do, make haste
Otherwise you’ll be, as she terms it “ooo hella faced”

May this day bless her with love and laughter, we know the liquor will be flowing
She’ll be smooched over with lipstick kisses, this is true, we’re all knowing.

Another year older, my lovely and amazing friend
Thank goodness this awful poem is now at an end.

Posted by Min Jung in Elsewhere in the Bloggerati

SXSW the music portion

And damn it, I’m only there for the v. beginning and gotta bounce back to the bay for the bulk of the mischief.

Hope I get to catch some of it at least:

Press Release

For Immediate Release
For more information, contact
Elizabeth Derczo 512/467-7979, ext. 209

South by Southwest Music and Media Conference 2004 Announces Two SXSW
Interviews and Initial Band List

Austin, TX – January 13, 2004 – The South by Southwest (SXSW) Music
Conference and Festival, scheduled to take place Wednesday, March 17 -
21, 2004 in Austin, Texas, is pleased to announce two SXSW Interviews
with notable artists Ani DiFranco and Wayne Coyne along with a partial
list of bands.

The SXSW Conference will host everyone’s favorite psychedelic punk
rocker from Oklahoma, Wayne Coyne of the Flaming Lips, will be the subject of
a SXSW Interview on Friday, March 19. The Flaming Lips’ past two albums,
“The Soft Bulletin” and “Yoshimi Battles The Pink Robots” weave
together whimsy, fantasy and sometimes tragic realism into a singular experience which is heightened at their surreal live shows. After two straight
years of touring behind “Yoshimi,” the Lips are currently working on their
long promised film “Christmas On Mars.” The interview with Coyne, to be
conducted by writer Jason Cohen, will be a can’t-miss event at SXSW
2004.

Ani DiFranco exemplifies the independent musician in her creative and
business endeavors. Building an audience with tireless touring,
DiFranco energized the folk circuit when she emerged in the early nineties. Her
audience grew beyond genre boundaries with her galvanizing live show
and series of self-released recordings. Her songs are marked by an
uncommonly frank voice and a singular musicality. The Righteous Babe label has grown to include a roster which reflects the adventurous tastes of its
founder. A new album due on January 20, “Educated Guess,” marks the first time that DiFranco has handled every aspect of the recording and mixing. This
departure will certainly be one of the topics covered in this SXSW
Interview scheduled to take place on Saturday, March 20.

Many more speakers, panelists and session topics will be announced in
the near future.

With only a fraction of the bands selected so far out of 6700
applications, SXSW Music Festival is pleased to announce a few
highlights. Acts scheduled to appear include: Alkaline Trio (Chicago
IL), The B-52′s (Athens GA), Cory Branan (Memphis TN), Cartel de Santa
(Monterrey MEXICO), The Church (Sydney AUSTRALIA), Carmen Consoli
(Catania ITALY), David Cross (Atlanta GA), The Crystal Method (Las
Vegas NV), Matthew Dear (Detroit MI), The Decemberists (Portland WA), The
FieryFurnaces (New York NY), The Holmes Brothers (New York NY), Junior
Senior (Copenhagen DENMARK), Jimmy LaFave (Austin TX), Bernie Leadon Band
(Nashville TN), Los Lonely Boys (San Angelo TX), Mission Of Burma
(Boston MA), Modest Mouse (Issaquah WA), N.E.R.D. (Virginia Beach VA), NOFX
(Los Angeles CA), Ozomatli (Los Angeles CA), Papa Roach (Sacramento CA),
Pedro the Lion (Seattle WA), Liz Phair (Los Angeles CA), Pretty Girls Make
Graves (Seattle WA), The Sleepy Jackson (Perth AUSTRALIA), The Stills
(Montreal QC), Telefon Tel Aviv (New Orleans LA), Tendril (Dallas TX),
The Flatlanders (Lubbock TX), Sharde Thomas and The Rising Star Fife
And Drum Band (Senatobia MS), The Thrills (Dublin IRELAND), Tv On The Radio
(New York NY), Uzbegim Taronasi (Tashkent UZBEKISTAN), The Walkmen (New
York NY) This list is, of course, subject to change. [A more complete
list is below. Please keep in mind this is only a portion of the bands
that will be playing at the SXSW Music Festival.*]

To register for a productive, educational, enlightening, and
overwhelmingly musical week quickly and securely, go to
www.sxsw.com/attend. For the latest information as it is updated,
access SXSW at www.sxsw.com or e-mail us at sxsw@sxsw.com.

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Not to be missed during the interactive portion of the conference, my friend Scott will be putting together a panel that includes my friend Chris (a SXSW virgin. Be gentle.). I nudged Scott to submit the idea to the conference powers that be last year. I expect a burp from the man in tribute to my support for him.

I wonder how plans for FrayDay Austin & 20×2 are coming along.

Also, Bday Props to Mr. Tom Cosgrave and Ms. Jane “Pop Princess” Pinckard

Posted by Min Jung in Elsewhere in the Bloggerati

Scripting

“What are you thinking of?”
“Candy. (grin) and you?”
“That everything’s going to be ok. Really.”

Posted by Min Jung in Dreaming

Hey.

I’m just writing to say I’m sorry.
We’ve both been hurting and instead of doing more silliness to hurt each other by words and unwords, deeds, and undeeds, I’ll just say … yo. My bad. Sorry.
It’s not intended in that “I’m sorry you feel that way” kind of way which, as other folks have written, makes those words cheap and meaningless.

Cuz if you’re going to apologize you should work closer to say

“I am sorry. What I did was responsible for hurting you. I’m sorry for what I did. I’m sorry that *I* hurt you. I’m sorry that I haven’t been a better person or communicator to you because it wasn’t my intention for things to be this way. I’d like to try and do right by you because you and your feelings are important enough to me that I’d really like the opportunity to be better to you from now on and I hope you’ll let me try.”

Using other words make it cheap and slap blame back on the other. Which is lousy, and worse than attempting any sort of apology whatsoever.

And in kind with the previous post about compliments…apologies do not need to be returned in kind, but are helpful in acknowledging mutual accountability in riffs and chasms that develop between otherwise amazing, kind, and incredibly loving people.

So yeah.
To B. Sorry for having been a bitch to you. I was really hurt. And I lashed out in kind. I didn’t know how to deal with things. I took things out on you. I was totally thoughtless about the position you were in. There’s nothing more that could have been done to have made things better at the time. And I’m sorry for bringing you into my destructive tornado at the time.

To G. Sorry I wasn’t more sensitive and appreciative to you at the time. You were too kind to me and I didn’t feel worthy of that level of kindness so I threw it back in your face. I didn’t know the words to understand my own feelings and that made me ruthlessly careless with yours. I’m hoping your not still bitter or angry at me. And I hope you’ve found someone who is really worthy of your kindness.

To A. I’m so sorry I couldn’t appreciate how wide open and wonderful you were and what an amazing gift in your affection you were presenting to me. No one else has ever told me “I want to be your home entertainment system” on a first date. Or any other date. And that kind of crazy and whimsical magic was something that I was blind to. I’m sorry that things got weird and then distant. You know that if there were such a thing as second chances, I’d do better this time around. I’d really try my best.

To Y. I’m sorry for using my bruised ego as an excuse for the failure of our friendship. It’s totally stupid. I’m like that some times.

To S. Sorry. For everything. Really. I don’t know where to begin. Well, actually I do, but it’s not the place or time to get into it. You know. I know you know.

And to me: I’m sorry for putting you through some of the same lessons you should have learned so long ago. You’d think you’d be better at this by now but nah, go back to square one some times. Of you go. But it’s ok. And you know I won’t say I told you so. But then again I just did again. Sorry. And sorry for beating self up again. It’s really not so much a beratement as a nudge and reminder about making things right.

With arms stretched wide open today, I breathed deep and said aloud
I am open to the goodness of the universe
I am receptive to what the new year will teach me
I am willing to take on new challenges and opportunities
I am ready to forgive and be forgiven, to love and be loved.
And I am willing to recognize that St. Francis had some good shit.

Posted by Min Jung in Just Me

Planning Ahead

I’m planning ahead and have booked my SXSW plane tickets.
Woot!

I will be there: 3/10 – 3/17 which gives me a little time to catch up with friends, get over jetlag, and putter around before the general shenanigans.
It also gives me an extra day there to check out some of the bands during the music portion.

I’m trying to cut costs on my attendance where I can this year, ergo shacking up with the delightful Ms. H. and not at the Omni as last year. Most of my hotel buddy peeps (Ernie)are apparently not going but ya know me, I’m all hard core. I’m still going.

I’m renting a car from 3/10-3/17.
If you’d like me to be your chauffeur/biyatch for airport pickups/dropoffs in this interim and want to trade sex the chaufeuring duties for cash or Shiners, then I’m down. Let me know.

Wooot!

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Pah

And the KoreAm article is now done.

Hah!

Posted by Min Jung in Just Me

Conversation with the Kissing Bandit 1.11.04

KB: So what was *that* about?
Moi: Ah, nothing. Just a very handsome chap from the band said I had nice earrings.
KB: They are quite nice. Rather glad I got those for you.
Moi: I went into a tizzy about how they’re my every day earrings…blahblahblah non fashionista am I, but I’m trying…ya know…wearing my hair down more regularly, even…
KB: Oh why do you always dispell the mystery of your charms
Moi: Anyways…He asked if I take them off at night. I told him no, of course.
KB: And he was surprised by this?
Moi: *Shrug* I guess. He imagined that they must get stuck in my pillow when I fidget in my sleep.
KB: Do you fidget much?
Moi: Like I told him, it depends on who I’m with. (blush) I must have lost a half dozen left earrings in his sheets of one of my ex’s.
KB: Really. Did you ever get them back?
Moi: Nah. I figure it’s a war casualty.
KB: … Some war’s are fun.
Moi: Indeed.
KB: Are you wearing chanel while loffing about in your PJ’s?
Moi: Damn Skippy.
KB: A girl after my own heart.
Moi: I try.
KB: In the meantime, share some of that damn good scotch with a sister, wouldja? I’m having a hell of a week.
Moi: Two. Doubles. Neat.

Patience Grasshopper…

I am, by nature, not a really patient person. I have urgency in my tone, and in my lists. I like to cross off lots of things. When I’m procrastinateing from one task (like writing an article) I’ll put other things on my list so I can cross them off and feel like, am idst my procrastination, that I’m still being massively productive.

ie

Initial To Do List
* KoreAm Article
* Laundry

By 6:30 PM the same day
* KoreAm Article
* Laundry
*Eat something healthy
*Sort through pens
*Take out garbage
*Hang jackets
*Restack magazines
*Empty dish washer
*Email Friends
*Call Dad
*Sort out social schedule for the following week

If it’s reallly bad, I’m adding stuff on the list like
Paint Toenails
Consolidate Lotions/Shampoos

In a pique of OCD this week, I now have organized all my buttons, paper clips, and lipsticks. I have an awful lot of lipsticks.

And you know what? That article still ain’t done yet.

Yet.

I’ll keep a short list of things to do today.

One that’s a roll over from last week is getting my two computers both up and running/networked again.

I’m still waiting for a friend to respond with his availaibility to walk me through this last piece. Patience, grasshopper. Life is what it is.

Posted by Min Jung in Just Me

Life Lesson #2. 2004

When someone compliments you, instead of explaining it away in half guaged neurotic mumblings, stop yourself and smile. Say “Thank you”.

It’s ok to just say thank you. A compliment in response (only if it’s true and you were going to say it anyway) may be in order but is not necessary.

With an H-biyatch has been trying to school me on this for eons but I still get wrapped up in insecure excuses.

So thank you. *grin*

Posted by Min Jung in Life Lessons

Ah… WTF.

The 2004 Bloggies are here.
Nominations!

And in spite of last year’s drama around this awards, I’m still down and all for it.
The more variety in nominees, the better the selection and likelihood of really being able to discover and promote the sites you love.

So go! Forth! And Nominate!

And psst.. the fact that I’ve yet to *win* one yet, though I’ve been nominated once or twice, doesn’t mean I’m being a shameless ho.

Or maybe I am.

Tagline: Just another dork with a keyboard

or
Essay (see earlier entry this week)

or
GLBT (still a fag hag!)

Or whatever!

Posted by Min Jung in Elsewhere in the Bloggerati

Indulgence. Cuz I’m worth it.

Today, some online shopping arrived…
I was desperately needing some retail therapy and the goods came through today, at no better time considering my week.

* Custom Cosmetics from Reflect.com including some very saucy and juicy lipsticks in daring red reds.

* Sinfully good Scotch
10 Year Old.
175 Anniversary Limited Edition (12 years old).
And a 1965.

God bless me. And don’t be hating me for this indulgence. I’m worth it.

Posted by Min Jung in Just Me

Spit & Thoughts

Beat box is a whole new amazing fricking thing.
So is live free style battle.

Line in my head (obviously totally misheard)
Something something something something…in this heezy
I’m a mouse…and dude, your lines are cheesy.

Gonna try & hit the Vowel Movement tonight.

Posted by Min Jung in Mischief & Events

One for Ernie?

Beginning on January 8th, customers will have the opportunity to experience a groundbreaking reality television series on PPV – Can You Be A Porn Star? This series will take viewers behind the scenes for a look at 28 women vying for a $100,000 cash prize and a one-year contract with a major adult film company. Each episode will focus on four of the contestants with viewers being asked to vote at www.canyoubeapornstar.com to determine who will advance to the finals (voting will end on or about April 11th). Hosts of the show will include adult film star Tabitha Stevens and porn star/former California gubernatorial candidate Mary Carey.

This series will consist of 8 episodes over 4 months and a highlight show, with the final episode premiering on April 29th. Each episode will be one hour with the exception of the final, which will be 90 minutes.

The schedule is as follows:
Episode 1 January 8th – 11pm ET/8pm PT
Episode 2 January 22nd – 11pm ET/8pm PT
Episode 3 February 5th – 11pm ET/8pm PT
Episode 4 February 19th – 11pm ET/8pm PT
Episode 5 March 4th – 11pm ET/8pm PT
Episode 6 March 18th – 11pm ET/8pm PT
Episode 7 April 1st – 11pm ET/8pm PT
Highlight Show April 15th – 11pm ET/8pm PT
Episode 8 – April 29th – FINAL – 90 minutes – 11pm ET/8pm PT

Listed below is the available SRP pricing and packages for the series. ?
* Ala carte basis per episode — $9.95
* Ala carte pricing for the Final — TBD
* Package price includes each of the 8 premieres, immediate replay if available and the highlights show — $49.95

This series has received a tremendous amount of press coverage over the past month including Jay Leno, USA Today, CNN, Howard Stern, NY Post, Regis & Kelly, Fox News, and many more!

Call your cable company for details.

Posted by Min Jung in Mischief & Events